Kindness

Your kindness may be treated as your weakness,
Still be kind.

Your help to others may be unneeded and unnoticed,
Still be helpful.

If you are honest & frank, people may cheat you,
Still be honest.

What you spend in a year building
Someone Could Destroy Overnight, Still Build it.

If you find happiness, they may be jealous
Still be happy.

The good you do today, People will often forget tomorrow
Still do good deeds.
Because it is between you and god,
It was never between you and them.

For the longest of time I was not able to accept this concept. I understand very well but I find very difficult to put this into practice.

Anyways the crux is to be who we are and not to change just because others are the way we are and the way we expect them to be.

Try it!

Creativity ?

Lot of dreams- butterflies- DL (descriptive Language) [This is not Webservice DL]-flashy cards- e-invite.

Did you figure out what I am intending to write here ? Yes, it is about bride and the grooms and the wedding cards.

I have seen several wedding cards and creativity of different people while designing their wedding cards. Most of the cards that I have seen are lovely cards from Menaka cards or Maya cards. Some of the cards that I have seen are designed by the bride and the groom by themselves. I know a person who had a crossword on the invitation. The person is definitely not a crossword solving enthusiast who focuses on anagrams to solve the Hindu crosswords. I know someone else who had a pictionary of different rituals on the invitation. I have seen cards where the bride or the grooms have written poems, descriptive quotes, etc. Some of the cards had photos of the bride and the groom from their engagement ceremony. Later on, the trend was to have an evite link apart from the original wedding card. For those of you who are new to evite, the top ranked search engine, GOOGLE has several links to explain about evite. The bride and the groom create a profile in this evite system. Usually the bride posts her pictures from different stages of her life. Similarly the groom does. They write stories about how they knew each other if it were a love marriage. Those who have arranged marriage write stories about how many hours they spend time talking over the phone and create subnet congestion there by making BSNL wealthier.

Recently I happened to see someone’s wedding invitation to a whole bunch of people in his distribution list. The person had very proudly written his resume in the invitation :)
Then there comes the interesting part of this invitation. He had links to both their facebook profiles and also their BlogSpot links in the invitation. I felt little funny to see that and yes, unfortunately the SNS links are references to their identity.

Of course I did not like the idea and probably will never like the idea of printing blogspot or facebook links and resume on the wedding invitation. I was wondering if this person should print his LinkedIn public profile link on the invitation instead of a so called resume ? Doesn't this make more sense ?
All I could think about this was people are very CREATIVE.

*SNS- Social Networking Site

அன்பே சிவம்

இதயம் என்பது சதய்தான் என்றால்
எரிதழல் தின்றுவிடும்
அன்பின் கருவி இதயம் என்றால்
சாவை வென்றுவிடும்

I was listening to this song from the film "Anbe Sivam" today. Its one of my favorite movies. Love is the supreme power.

உணர்ச்சிபூர்வமான வரிகள். நான் இதை பரிபூர்ணமாக நம்புகிறேன். அடுத்த நிமிடம் நம் வாழ்வில் இருக்குமா இல்லையா என்று கூட அறியாமல் அன்பில்லாத எவளவோ விஷயங்களை செயல் படுத்துகிறோம்.சில சமயம் இதை நினைத்தால் வேடிக்கையாக இருக்கிறது.ஏன் என்றால் பெரும்பாலானோர் வாழ்வின் பிர் பகுதியில் தான் இதை உணருகிறார்கள்.

என் தமிழில் பிழை இருக்க வாய்ப்பிருக்கிறது. பிழை இருந்தால் கூறுங்கள் திருத்தி கொள்கிறேன்.

While growing up I was a complan girl and was told by my parents that coffee was not good for kids. I was not a big fan of complan. During my childhood, daily in the morning I pretended to sleep even when I woke up early in the morning only to procrastinate drinking a cup of complan. However I overcame this feeling when complan mango shake was introduced. huh it was a big relief !
The yellow colored cup with a fancy sipper for complan mango shake was a good marketing magic to attract the kids then.

Slowly I started drinking 1 cup of coffee in the morning. But I always knew my limits and I also never liked drinking it more than once. When I got a chance to be part of Isha Yoga’s inner engineering program, I learnt that caffeine randomly activates our nervous system in the morning. Since I liked the program, I also had a great respect for whatever that was taught and followed it until 3 months before. But unfortunately the aroma of freshly brewed coffee, while sipping it with lot of enjoyment has made me feel extra energetic and has become indispensable component in my life now.

Most of the days I drink 2 cups of coffee. When I start my work in the morning, the first thing I do is to get a cup of coffee without which I feel my desk is empty.

I am afraid that I would become addicted to coffee and would become an
“avid coffee drinker” :(

Philosophy ?

For a while now, I have been having a lot of philosophical thoughts. My perspective towards many things has been very philosophical. I could also say living and believing practicality. Sometimes the result of extensive thinking has even lead to confused thinking.

I have this habit of looking back about how a particular day was a year back and get thrilled of all the events that take place in the due course. Today when I look back, I am very convinced that today is a gift compared to the day it was a year back. This might also be the result of thinking that everyday is a gift.

One thing that I have been wondering about life is, things that we want to happen are the ones that happen at a later point of time when we least expect them to happen. By then we get tired of dreaming and move on. Usually our mind starts to think “why did this not happen at the time we want them to happen...?” Well how nice it would be to get things at the time when we want them. The timely gift always gives immense pleasure and is also very memorable.But we know the fact that things don't happen at the time we want and when they happen at the time that we don’t want, we get mad. I have an answer for every question that arises within me. “Probably everything that happens has a good reason behind it”.

One other thing that I wonder is, there would have been times in our life when we would have missed to enjoy very small things. Those are the things that we gain interest at a later point of time and then we feel bad for having missed it before. For instance most of us are very cautious about our food habits and would have avoided eating many food stuffs. Unfortunately we gain interest when we don’t get them to eat anymore :(
I remember the days when I haven’t showed any interest in eating. Now I really miss boiled sweet potato, boiled peanuts, vazhappoo, vazhathandu, palakottai sambar(jackfruit seeds), ladies finger. We don’t realize the value of anything until we have and miss them like hell when we don’t have them. That’s life I guess!
So now, I relish everything that I have and enjoy everyday.

By having a lot of practical and philosophical discussions within myself, I realize that my perception towards life has changed a lot. When I get a feeling that I am being fooled or taken for granted or when people irritate me, I have an answer to put down my fuming feelings. I just cannot tolerate at those times but I tell to myself that it matters more what I think about myself rather than what others do. Well, most of the times this has a very good effect cuz this attitude helps me to refrain from reacting for most of the situations. According to me response to a stimulus triggers the effect to be more and this forms a chain reaction.

I am not sure why I started writing about this.

Am I confused ? May be Yes or may be No.

Am I very practical ? May be Yes or may be No.