Need of the hour

A completely preoccupied mind needs a vent. When there are several thoughts crossing the mind and the mind doesn’t know which one to process and address…..uhhhhhhh. This definitely hurts the head.

It is so much nice to close the eyes and to let the thoughts flow. To follow the thoughts lined up like bogies  and to not get involved and not to get stuck in them is an art. The moment I involve in a thought, my mind reacts to situations, anger, criticisms and everything that will hurt my head. Is it that hard to meditate? I try to meditate but am so caught up in my thoughts that I react to every small thing.

Calmness is the need of the hour.

CHANGE

Things do not change; we change.

Isn't it very true ? We desperately look forward for things to change. When we cannot change things that are not under our control, we try to show our anger on irrelevant things and change irrelevant things only because those are under our control.

Today I made one such attempt to change my blogger template.

If it didn’t Bring you Joy,

Just Leave it Behind.

Let’s Ring in the New Year
With Good Things in Mind.

Let Every Bad Memory Go
That Brought Heartache and Pain.


And let’s Turn a New Leaf
With the Smell of New Rain.


Let’s Forget Past Mistakes
Making Amends for This Year.


Sending You These Greetings
To Bring you Hope and Cheer


Happy New Year!

விடுகதையா இந்த வாழ்க்கை விடைதருவார் யாரோ
எனது கையென்னை அடிப்பதுவோ எனது விரல் கண்ணைக் கெடுப்பதுவோ
அழுது அறியாத என் கண்கள் ஆறு குளமாக மாறுவதோ
ஏனென்று கேட்கவும் நாதியில்லை ஏழையின் நீதிக்குக் கண்ணுண்டு பார்வையில்லை
பசுவினைப் பாம்பென்று சாட்சிசொல்ல முடியும் காம்பினில் விஷம் என்ன கறக்கவா முடியும் (2)
உடம்பில் வழிந்தோடும் உதிரம் உனைக்கேட்கும்
நான் செய்த தீங்கு என்ன (2)

விடுகதையா இந்த வாழ்க்கை விடைதருவார் யாரோ
வந்து விழுகின்ற மழைத்துளிகள் எந்த இடம் சேரும் யார் கண்டார்
மனிதர் கொண்டாடும் உறவுகளோ எந்த மனம் சேரும் யார் கண்டார்
மலைதனில் தோன்றுது கங்கை நதி அது கடல் சென்று சேர்வது காலன் விதி
இவனுக்கு இவள் என்று எழுதிய கணக்கு கணக்குகள் புரியாமல் கனவுக்குள் வழக்கு (2)
உறவின் மாறாட்டம் உரிமைப் போராட்டம்
இரண்டும் தீர்வதெப்போ (2)

விடுகதையா இந்த வாழ்க்கை விடைதருவார் யாரோ
உனது ராஜங்கம் இதுதானே ஒதுங்கக்கூடாது நல்லவனே
தொண்டுகள் செய்ய நீயிருந்தால் தொல்லை நேராது தூயவனே
கைகளில் பொன்னள்ளி நீ கொடுத்தாய் இன்று கண்களில் கண்ணீரை ஏன் கொடுத்தாய்
காவியங்கள் உனைப்பாடக் காத்திருக்கும்பொழுது காவியுடை நீ கொண்டால் என்னவாகும் மனது (2)
வாழ்வை நீ தேடி வடக்கே நீ போனால்
நாங்கள் பூவதேங்கு (2)

இந்த படமும் இந்த பாடலும் எனக்கு மிகவும் பிடிக்கும். தனிமையில் இருக்கும் பொழுது இந்த பாடலை கேட்டால் ,அர்த்தத்தின் ஆழம் புரியும்.விடைகள் கிடைப்பது சரமம் என்றும் புரியும்.

During my engineering days, I was not a big fan of electronics laboratory. Theoretically there should be an output for every input and there is an expected output. But there are other factors that I have been clueless about which might have led to a not so favorable result. I really have not got an expected output most of the times I have experimented in the electronics lab.
I relate life to an electronics experiment many times. We know that the input we give is correct. Sometimes we don’t know the other factors which might lead to the undesired output.

Detaching science from this post, I want to squeeze in philosophy. When we don’t get certain things, we are trained to think that god gives us those at right time. Well, with that hope we try to put in the same effort thinking that we will be rewarded someday. There are times when we know that we deserve the best and the right things but it just does not happen. We ponder upon it over and over to find the reasons for not getting something. There really isn’t a great discovery for this exercise except for tiredness. But still we try out different things to get where we want. The irony is by the time it happens we lose interest and the victory loses its charm.

Having this thought is very natural. However we still should learn to live, like and love those victories and moments.

Some people give free advice to others very well. I do not like people who advice for others which are purely personal situations to them. I feel I am the right judge for my situations and I know how to handle my stuff. Who are this other people who provide their suggestions for marriage, kids, job etc.I do not give suggestions to other people unless I know the person really well. Also everyone is entitled to their opinion and can act accordingly. Why should someone impose their thoughts and justify that it’s the right one? There is nothing called as right or wrong in this world. Leaving the situations which reflect value system, everything else is in one’s perception.

Tough Times ?

When you are beaten in life again and again, do not lose heart and just read the article below:

http://tinklingsmiles.blogspot.com/2008_05_01_archive.html

One thing that I have felt is “life is a vicious circle”. It doesn’t stop anywhere. We have dreams, aspirations and we work hard towards it. When we meet our targets, we set up new goals and again work towards it. While working towards something, we face numerous challenges and we get tired mentally. Sometimes life treats us so kindly that we achieve our desires very soon; sometimes it chases us for years together to achieve what we want. The timeline in which one gets what he/she desires depends on karma. Sleepless night, sadness, tiredness, what more is left? Name it and we face everything in due course.

Everyone goes through this challenge for different needs. But the irony is we all forget the pain and experiences, when we pass the tunnel. The people who know the pain, who have experienced it and know how it feels for someone else, still would make fun and ask pricking questions to another person who undergoes painful times. Well, the point to be taken here is, these are the people who are like obstacles in our devotion and we just have to surpass and focus on what we want. At the end of the day, its tough to prove to everybody who makes fun of us and the reality is we live our life for just us.

Several years before I have heard stories and lectures from my grandfather. He always asked me to believe that our prayers will never go in vain. Sometimes god may not help us immediately when we need but he gives the best when the right time comes. Now, we really can’t know when this right time comes in a person’s life. But the hope with which we work towards something takes us far and one day there is light at the end of tunnel.

The moment of victory is a time truly dedicated to our hard work and is a result of our devotion and prayers of our well wishers. It’s a time when our needs are satisfied and that gives peace of mind and it is not a situation of proof for others.

Kindness

Your kindness may be treated as your weakness,
Still be kind.

Your help to others may be unneeded and unnoticed,
Still be helpful.

If you are honest & frank, people may cheat you,
Still be honest.

What you spend in a year building
Someone Could Destroy Overnight, Still Build it.

If you find happiness, they may be jealous
Still be happy.

The good you do today, People will often forget tomorrow
Still do good deeds.
Because it is between you and god,
It was never between you and them.

For the longest of time I was not able to accept this concept. I understand very well but I find very difficult to put this into practice.

Anyways the crux is to be who we are and not to change just because others are the way we are and the way we expect them to be.

Try it!

मन और आंसू

मन से उसकी बातचीत हो रही थी
उसने प्यार से बोला, विश्वास दिलाई
की इस मन को प्यार से देक्भाल करेगा

मन उसके सुख दुःख को उससे बोल रही थी
इक दिन उसने विश्वास को टूटके मन को कतोर्था से चिल्लाई
मन भोज को उठाकर, बिना बोले आंसू पोंछने लगा

उसने विश्वास की थोड़ी भी याद नहीं किया
और मन गलत बनकर गलती का भोज उठा रही थी

TRUTH

Friend Request ?

To me definition of friend is, a person who really cares, is not jealous, truly feels happy in your happy moments, feel equally bad in bad times, and help when needed. Treating the other person with respect shows the real friend in a person. The tone in which a person talks, the way a person treats other person mean a lot to me. I do not like people taking the other person for granted, demanding, making fun in front of others, letting down in front of others.

I have always hated when a so called friend talks between the 2 in a group when others in the scene are totally forgotten. I believe in etiquette and I am totally uncomfortable in such places. Two people can talk but eventually they should let others in the group know what they discussed. If it’s something that cannot be shared it could better be discussed in private.

Social networking websites help us to get connected with friends, colleagues, acquaintances, sometimes so called friends. Most of the times we even add people whom we have not seen, met and probably just talked over the phone hardly once. Sometimes we end up getting requests from people whom we know with traits that I have described above. I knew one such person who have made me totally uncomfortable in several occasions and now wants to add me in her network. What kind of a person is she?

It gives so much relief when I ignore and just move on with my work when such requests come. There is no better diplomatic reaction I could think of other than this.

जो भी करो दिल से करो
सब की सुनो, दिल की करो
बुरे वक़्त में घबराना नहीं
अच्छे वक़्त में पगलाना नहीं

वाह रे वाह..............तालियाँ

आखिर ज़िन्दगी क्या है

तन्हाई तन्हाई
दिल के रास्ते में कैसे टोकर मैंने खायी
टूटे कहाब सारे एक मायुं सी है छाई
हर ख़ुशी सो गयी, ज़िन्दगी खो गयी
तुमको जो प्यार किया मैंने तो सजा मैं पायी

कवाब में देखा था एक आँचल
मैंने अपने हाथों में
अब टूटे सपनों के शीशे चुब्ठे हें इन आँखों में
कल कोई था यहीं, अब कोई भी नहीं
बनके नागिन जैसे है सांसों में लहराई

क्यों ऐसी उम्मीद की मैंने
जो ऐसे ना काम हुई
दूर बनायीं थी मंजिल
थो रस्ते में ही शाम हुई
अब कहाँ जून मैं, किसको समझाउं मैं
क्या मैंने चाह था और क्या किस्मत में आई

कुछ गाने ऐसे हें जिसको पदथे वक़्त दिल का दर्पण जैसे लगता है....इस गाने में जो गहराई है, लगता है की लिकने वक़्त कवी ने पूरा मह्स्सोस करके लिखा हो..